Why Stopping Is Actually the Only Way to Move Forward
Have you ever found yourself racing through a packed week, crossing off tasks, yet feeling completely hollow inside? I hit that exact wall recently. In our culture, keeping busy is praised like a superpower, while resting feels like a confession of weakness.
But then I listened to a deeply moving episode of Dr. Mario Alonso Puig’s podcast in Spanish titled “Stopping is also Moving Forward (even if it doesn’t feel like it” In this specific conversation, Dr. Puig and his guest, Honorio González, dive into a truth that felt like a splash of cold water: Sometimes, the most productive, courageous thing you can do is completely stop.
If you are running on empty but terrified to slow down, this perspective shift is for you.
The Anatomy of Our Avoidance: What Are We Running From?
Why is it so hard to sit in silence? Why do we get anxious the moment our schedules clear up? Dr. Puig points out that we use busyness as an emotional shield. When we finally slow down, the external noise drops, and the internal noise gets incredibly loud. When we pause, we are suddenly forced to look inward and confront three major emotions our egos hate to face:
Fear: The terrifying “What now?” and the sudden void of not knowing who we are without our achievements.
Sadness: The accumulated fatigue, grief, or disappointments we’ve been sweeping under the rug.
Shame: The lingering, toxic belief that if we aren’t producing, we are somehow flawed or "not enough."
To avoid this trio, we keep running. But running on an empty tank doesn't get you further—it just guarantees a harsher breakdown down the road.
When You Don't Choose to Stop, Your Body Chooses For You
During the podcast, Honorio shares a vulnerable look into his own story—how forcing himself to constantly lead and over-function eventually led to an emotional and physical crash.
From a neurological standpoint, Dr. Puig explains that pushing through chronic emotional exhaustion locks our brains into "fight or flight" mode. This literally shunts blood away from your prefrontal cortex—the exact part of your brain you need for creativity, memory, and clear decision-making.
Many of us only pause when we are "sick of being sick." True emotional intelligence means listening to the whispers of your body before they turn into a full-blown scream.
Reinterpreting the Pause: It’s Not Quitting, It’s Renewing
We need to completely redefine what it means to take a break. Stopping isn't laziness or giving up.
“Stopping is not abandoning the world; it is gathering yourself to renew, recover, and return to the world with greater strength and clarity." — Dr. Mario Alonso Puig
Think of an archer. Pulling back the bowstring looks like moving away from the target, but without that tension and intentional pause, the arrow has absolutely no power to fly forward.
Constant busyness = Brain drain & burnout
Strategic pause = Neurological reset & clarity = True momentum
The Supreme Intelligence of Asking for Help
One of my absolute favorite takeaways from their chat was the discussion around asking for help. We are conditioned to view self-sufficiency as strength. But realizing you cannot fix everything on your own isn't a sign of fragility; it's a sign of wisdom.
When Honorio chose to finally pause and ask for support, it broke down his ego and opened the door to true healing. Dr. Puig beautifully notes that when you survive your own low points, you develop a profound gift: the genuine capacity to look at someone else who is struggling and say, "I see you, I’ve been there, and I understand."
How to Practice the "Art of Stopping" Today
You don't need to book a month-long retreat to apply this. You can start small:
Protect 10 Minutes of Pure Silence: No phone, no podcast, no background TV. Just sit, let your thoughts settle, and breathe.
Shift from "Doing" to "Being": Check in with yourself halfway through your day. Instead of asking, "What do I need to finish next?" ask, "How is my energy doing right now?"
Accept, Don't Resign: Acceptance means acknowledging your current limitations without judging yourself. Resignation drains you; acceptance gives you the clarity to find a better way forward.
Hearing Dr. Puig and Honorio talk, for me it felt like receiving a permission slip to finally take a deep breath and I wanted to share it with you. If you are feeling overwhelmed, remember that you aren't losing time by stepping off the treadmill—you are saving your future self.
What about you? What is the biggest fear or thought that makes it hard for you to just stop and do nothing?
Wellness to your health,
Virginia
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