A Myth Or A Reality; Women’s Mid-Life Crisis
Reflections, Breakthroughs, and Support for Every Woman
The idea of a "midlife crisis" might seem like a myth, but for many women, it's a very real and challenging part of life. Usually, this period shows up between our 40s and 50s, bringing questions, emotions, and changes that can feel overwhelming. I want to share my story and some supportive words that helped me through, hoping they bring comfort and connection to anyone facing similar moments.
For me, it happened exactly at 43; I called it my midlife crisis. We all experience different crossroads throughout life, but this one felt different. It's that moment when you stop and start asking yourself deep questions about who you are and where you're going. Sometimes, these feelings are quiet and easy to ignore, but other times, something triggers them and suddenly your world is turned upside down.
My turning point happened during a coaching retreat. We were practicing a new technique in Transformational Coaching, shifting judgment into curiosity and self-love. In that space, I realized I needed to give myself a strong, honest evaluation—where did I want to be, and where was I really? The desire to listen to my soul grew stronger, and the truth that surfaced was so scary it made me wonder if I would ever regain my sense of self and purpose. But that breakthrough was the start of something new.
The risk of searching for this desire is that sometimes this makes you take rushed decisions and in consequence feel you are losing your mind, that’s why is important to take a moment to reflect once again and analyze your pros and cons. The great news is that in theory you are halfway in your life and a light came to you to offer you a second opportunity to turn the steer wheel around. At the end of the day is about reflection and acceptance, so don’t sit down in a corner and have pity for yourself, don’t wish things would be easier, instead make yourself stronger and repeat this mantra to yourself “ I’m worthy, I fully accept myself and love myself exactly as I am”, and go with what your gut is telling you, because 99% of the times is right. Nobody said life would get easier, but as you get stronger and more resilient and more positive and truthful to yourself and your purpose, you will find challenges getting smaller.
One of my dear friends, Carla, posted something beautiful that touched my heart and I want to share it with you all, thank you Carla for touching our hearts, here we go:
“I was thinking what else I could wish all women that are in my life, other than health and happiness …. I wish you peacefulness and restful sleeps. I wish you lots of coffee moments in good company. I wish you that if you need to go to the Pharmacy is to buy cosmetics and not medicines, and if you go to the supermarket is to buy chocolate and healthy options but not diets. I wish you to be loved, appreciated and respected. That the men in your life take away the lipstick in your lips and not your mascara. I wish you so many things …. that you will sing loud when you are in the car alone, and that you have years to come with beautiful holidays and getaways with priceless memories. I wish you won’t find yourself in need, and that nobody will take anything you deeply care about away from you. I wish you laughers that make you cry …. laughers that throw your fears away and erase all your wrinkles. I wish you all the very best!!!! “
Every woman's journey through midlife is unique, but we are not alone. I invite you to reflect on your own story, your moments of change, and the breakthroughs you've experienced. If you feel comfortable, share your experiences with others—your voice could be the support someone else needs.
Remember, you deserve nothing less than the best. Every feeling, challenge, and experience is s perfectly orchestrated for your evolution. Take advantage of challenges and reframe them into opportunities. Life isn't happening to you; it's happening for you. Desire is not selfish—it's wise, it’s a compass pointing you in the direction of your life purpose. Embrace this journey with self-acceptance, courage, and the knowledge that you are part of a caring, supportive community.
As you look toward this next chapter, what is one desire or dream you’ve been putting on the back burner that you are ready to finally trust and follow?
Wellness to your health,
Virginia
